ABOUT REBECCA ALLEYNE
I am a lawyer and family law mediator practicing exclusively in the area of family law. Through my practice as a lawyer, I watched families go through separation and divorce and, in doing so, exhaust themselves emotionally and financially. The adversarial process can be very expensive and time consuming and it can destroy families because of increased animosity and stress. I did not like the role I had as a lawyer because I often felt that I was perpetuating that animosity and furthering a destructive process.
The reality is that parents must continue to talk about their children’s medical appointments, attend soccer games, and sit beside one another years down the road at their child’s graduation ceremony. Those without children may also be motivated to maintain an amicable relationship. Any separation process should be able to fairly deal with the legal issues, but in a way that supports and empowers people to transition constructively into the post-separation plan they make for themselves.
This is why after 10 years of practicing as a regular family lawyer, I quit my job at the downtown family law firm I was working for, and I started doing things a bit differently. By shifting the focus of the separation away from it being a fight about the past and onto it being about a plan to move forward, I feel like I am helping people through their separation in a positive way.